I brought cannabis into the bedroom and got my sexual empowerment back on track.
I am a 42 year old mother of four and have always been sexually active. I had our third child 13 years after our 2nd child was born. As some of you may know there is a significant difference in having children in your 20’s versus your mid to late 30’s. I will be honest in telling you, I wasn’t prepared for those differences.
After my son was born, I was 37, I not only experienced almost debilitating insecurity about my body but virtually a complete loss of interest in sex. It had been a traumatic birth experience with complications. Everything turned out all right in the end but the psychological impact it had on me couldn’t be denied. I had been an on again off again cannabis user for years; but after my son was weaned I began using cannabis again, as suggested by my husband, to potentially loosen up enough to get some sexual relief. It worked, it was amazing. At that time we weren’t focused on strains or any real technical details because, hey it worked! Our attitude was one of, “don’t rock the boat”.
I became pregnant with our 4th child very quickly, haha, at age 39 and again experienced a difficult pregnancy but a wonderful birth experience and was able to deliver my last little angel myself. Imagine my surprise when I not only experienced the same effects as after my son but add to that vaginal dryness and an even bigger mental block causing me to not be able to orgasm! YIKES! Now I know there are bigger problems out there, bigger health issues, but I was devastated. I was using cannabis with minimal to no, as in zero, positive effect at all in that arena. I was depressed. I hated my body, I was worried my husband would look for alternatives and good gawds above did I need an orgasm. Just to be clear I was unable to bring myself to climax either. Dark days for me as a sexually active woman in a healthy relationship, sex was and is part of my being.
The tipping point for me, being I had embraced the cannabis community by this juncture, was the availability of information on the topic of strains and the chemistry of cannabis a little more accessible. I began experimenting with strains available to me through dispensaries, basically trial by fire, and this is what I found works for me. I qualify that, being I know not all strains affect people the same way. The Kush family of strains seems to do the trick for me. I experience a wonderful euphoric and blissful mental state which allowed me to break down my other barriers and achieve not only orgasm but a whole new attitude and experience to our sex life. Again, in the interest of full disclosure I did practice a lot of positive self thought therapy and determination at times (there was a lot of “shut it” and “don’t think about that!” going on in my head during those difficult days). Overall the absolutely biggest impact was the addition of cannabis and the narrowing of the field regarding specific strains. I have had luck with other strains such as Skywalker and Fire but when those are scarce or inaccessible I am glad to have worked out that any decent Kush will work.
If you would have told me, even as early as 5 years ago that I would be utilizing cannabis to sustain my healthy sex life I would have laughed you right out of the room. So to any disbelievers or skeptics I am here to tell you, Give Cannabis A Chance. What do you have to lose? Great Sex? A deeper intimacy with your partner? I have zero regrets and am a happier person for it.
(updated version from September 2015)